So those last few weeks were so hectic, I missed my blog so much, and I missed writing to you guys. I feel my fingers ticking rustically on my laptop, trying to regain their weightlessness splashing of words. Even my mind feels rustic.
Writing needs continues, daily practice, I think. In any case, I’m back, and I hope for the long run. As you saw in my previous post I’m officially off the market!
That’s true, I’m officially married. So many foreign friends asked me about it, you see we have stages of matrimony in the Arabic world; religiously and in the law, I’m a married woman. But until I wear that white dress and dance in my Zafeh, I’m still just engaged.
When a man wants to marry a woman, he first proposes to her, especially if they already know each other, than he brings his mom and dad for a small “Tulbeh” which means the official asking for the girl’s hand in marriage from her family. If the family agrees, a “Fataha” and a “Jaha” come next.
Which means, they read one of the parts of Quran and make their involvement and engagement public. Jaha is a huge deal, the guy brings every man he knows, from family to friends, to ask for the girl’s hand again, the importance of it lays in that every man comes to ask for her, in a way raising her value. Then the couple make an engagement party.
Next comes “Katb el Ktab” which means officially signing your wedding contract and officially being married. Before the wedding night, there’s the “Henna”, the night that the women come together to take care of the bride and put henna on, for a blessed union, the men go to a public bath and shower basically. Finally the wedding comes!
But my hubby and I made a mess of the whole thing. He did propose in the most romantic of ways, he did visit us with his mom. But afterward we messed the traditions up!
We decided to hide our engagement, than surprise our families in Eid El Adha, two weeks ago, we arranged everything, we only told them to get ready; after 4 days of crazily running around, making our papers ready (SO not romantic) and doing all the necessary things to get hitched, we finally did it! We said I do and are now planning our wedding through smart phones and Skype!
No engagement party, no henna night, no fuss! Just a small wedding for our family and close friends… In all honesty, all I think about is the wedding, the dress, the cake, the guest list, the souvenirs, the cards… Gosh! So much to do so little time!
I want to thank everyone in my family, my friends, my readers and my followers for their warm wishes and constant love. I love you!